I’ve been examining the theory of balance. The work-life-parenting balance issue has been beaten to death by bloggers, and I happen to think it is possible. Maybe not every day, but over the long-term. Balance just takes vigilance.
If you want a balance of things to happen in your life, you need to keep a reminder of those things in your face all the time. Because you’ll forget them. I have my Daily Habits List. I also have a spreadsheet always open on my computer that details the things I want to keep in the forefront of my mind.
For example, there are things you just do each day because life demands it. For me, they are things like preparing meals, cleaning, laundry, homeschooling, and taking my kids to classes and activities. Oh, and breaking up sibling fights. But I digress.
Then there are things that you need to do each day to move forward toward your goals. My list includes:
- Drink 60 oz water
- Stay calm with my kids
- Create family time and alone time with my husband
- Work on my writing/blog/social media
These are the things I have to keep in front of my face all the time. In addition to the spreadsheet and my Daily Habits List, I’ve also set up reminders to be sent to my phone and taped index cards on my walls. All useful tools to help you remember.
I’ve been doing well with my fitness goal. I’m exercising consistently and have lost 4.5 pounds since Jan 3rd. I’ve been exercising almost every morning, and sometimes twice a day when I can fit in a workout during my daughter’s classes at the gym. I’ve been keeping my snacking and junk food to a minimum and my portion sizes smaller.
But while that focus has been good, other things are slipping. When I get up early to exercise, plan my day and do some blogging, I need to go to sleep earlier. I’m wickedly cranky when it’s time to get my kids to bed. I snap at them and have no patience for reading five books or cuddling or the nighttime chatter. And once the kids are in bed? So am I. Sorta blows my second goal of “creating a loving, peaceful, sanctuary of a home for my family.”
So this coming week I’m making some adjustments. I’m going to try going to bed and waking up a half hour later as well as moving my kids to a slightly earlier bed time. I’ll have to be more focused and productive in the mornings, but I’m hoping that small shift will make a big difference in my ability to be a human being during the night time hours.
By paying close attention to what’s working and what’s not, I can continue to make these adjustments and keep moving forward. How can you be more vigilant in your life?